Episode 89

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Published on:

12th May 2022

A Look at Female Power in the Past and Present

In this episode special guest is Dr. Kara Cooney, Egyptologist, and author of When Women Ruled the World. Did you know that thousands of years ago ancient Egypt allowed women to rule and they called them Kings?! Amazing as it sounds there was still a very prevalent undercurrent of patriarchy that they ruled in, one that still exists today in the majority of positions of power. Exploring female power in the past can teach us a lot about female power today and Kara explains the similarities and differences between the times. We have lived by the rules of patriarchy for a long time now, and it’s about time for a change!

 

About the Guest:

Dr. Kathlyn (Kara) Cooney is a professor of Egyptian Art and Architecture at UCLA. Specializing in craft production, coffin studies, and economies in the ancient world, she received her Ph.D. in Egyptology from Johns Hopkins University. When Women Ruled the World, Her most recent book was published in 2018 by National Geographic Press and explored the reigns of six powerful ancient Egyptian queens and how they changed our perceptions of power.

 

Links:

https://nelc.ucla.edu/person/kara-cooney/

Instagram:

@karacooney

Book:

https://www.amazon.ca/When-Women-Ruled-World-Queens/dp/1426219776

 

Transcript
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Welcome to the wealth and wellness podcast with

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me Kayleigh, Bob air. I specialize in helping people to

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goal is to spark healthy and positive conversations around

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by their financial situation. But wealth is just one piece of

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both wealth and wellness topics. From your net worth to your self

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worth. Get ready to take confident action. Hello, this is

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Kaylee and thank you so much for tuning into this episode of the

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wealth and wellness podcast. Very excited for today's guest

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and today's topic. I'm all about empowering women. You know,

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women being in control of their their money, their finances. So

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I think this is a really neat topic. So we have special

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guests, Dr. Kara Cooney, who is a professor of Egyptian art and

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architecture at UCLA, specializing in craft

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production, coffin studies and economies in the ancient world.

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She received her PhD in Egypt homology from John Johns Hopkins

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University, and her new book when women ruled the world was

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published in 2018, by National Geographic press, and explores

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the reigns of six powerful ancient Egyptian queens and how

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they change our perceptions of power. So we're gonna go all

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into that. I love it. I'm excited. Thank you so much for

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being with us today. Kara. Just to get started. Is there

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anything to add to that a little bit about your journey? And what

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brought you to do this work?

Dr. Kara Cooney:

No, no, I'm sure I'm completely different

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from any of the other guests on your podcast. I hope I'm the

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first Egyptologist if I'm not, I'll be disappointed.

Kalee Boisvert:

So definitely the first Egyptologist,

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absolutely. Which is exciting and new. And you're right, very

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different. Because oftentimes, we're okay, we're very money

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focused, or we're wellness focused. But I think this is a

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very important piece for women to talk about. Because when

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we're when we're talking about finances, and careers, and

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things like that, there is still this balance of power that, you

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know, is not completely equivalent. And I work in a very

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male dominated industry, still only about 15% women, female

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advisors, which is unfortunate. And so there's work to be done.

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So it's amazing to know that going into our past, there was

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actually a difference there.

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Yeah, a little bit, but but all under cut it too. So

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don't you worry. Okay, I'll get there.

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So can you tell us a bit about okay, so female

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power in the past? And how you know what that looked like then

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in this in this book that were you talking about when women

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ruled the world?

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Yeah, Egypt was this strange and unusual place that

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allowed women to act as nothing less than leader of state as

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king, and they called them kings. So but for people get

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upset that I'm not using the word queen. That's why the

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Egyptians called them kings. And they allowed them to rule from

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the very beginnings of their kingship to the ends of their,

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their kingship and women, powerful women really bookend

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the entire scheme, which gives you an idea that, when when, and

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here's the dirty little secret of the whole thing, when

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authoritarian power is held in the hands of one family, women

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are needed. I could have written a book that was all about how it

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was a revisionist history, claiming that women were more

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powerful than they were. Instead, I wrote a book that

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said, women are capable of ruling, and there are their

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workplaces in the past that allowed them to rule. But don't

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misunderstand that these women couldn't change the system. From

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the inside out, they ruled in the same patriarchy that we

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exist in today. And they had to play by those rules as well. So

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it from your perspective, being a woman in finance, where

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there's only what 8% female CEOs of Fortune 500 companies and as

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you say, 15% financial advisors, finance is the economic power is

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one of the places where women are, are really barred from

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playing. And if you know that, and you learn from these women

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who couldn't change the patriarchy, you can you can gain

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some insight on how to find your way forward in a man's world.

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What can you say that about these women? And like

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was there differences to how they ruled versus how men ruled

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like it sounds like they kind of had to follow the rule. But was

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there some differences there?

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There are always differences. There have to be

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any woman who rules and I'm chair of my department. So I

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understand this women who rule in whatever small or large

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capacity I know that they are expected to rule differently and

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that they have to fulfill certain expectations. And if

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they don't, then they will be Hillary Clinton or Yoko Ono,

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however you want to, you want to see it because a woman who, who

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is openly ambitious and claims power that is not perceived to

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be her own, who is not playing by patriarchal rules, because

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usually quashed pretty effectively and pretty quickly.

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So if you're going to be strategic about it, then you you

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have to play by the game of being more peaceful, being more

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self denigrating, laughing more being, there's all kinds of

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things a woman just knows in her bones she has to do. And I will

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say, for these ancient women, the only reason they were chosen

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is because they didn't have armies behind them. They weren't

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trained in professions, they weren't socially embedded. And

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as such, they were the Safer Choice when say, a young king

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comes to the throne, and he's unready to rule. And you need a

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decision maker, because the kids like seven or eight, no one's

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gonna let a seven or eight year old make decisions. But do you

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have the uncle of the kid make the decisions? Or do you have

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his mother make the decisions, and the mother the Egyptians

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realize was the better choice, because the uncle might be able

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to raise an army he's embedded in society is going to be able

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to create competition against his nephew, the mother probably

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won't want to do that because she loves her boy. But say you

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choose a mother who's not directly related to this boy,

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even in that case, she's a safer bet, because she doesn't have

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access to all of the social tools that men who are embedded

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in society do. And and so she's expected to rule and then when

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when her time is done, just be quiet, sweetheart, go away.

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We're done with you now. And and you're, you're good to go. So,

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these women did roll rather as placeholders. But they were

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chosen by a male driven and male lead system, because they could

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be so effectively used as placeholders. Men were more

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difficult to use in that way, they got more powerful within

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the system, as they went up that ladder, and women often don't.

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And that's something that we need to think about. Why is

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that? How is that? Why is it so hard for a woman in a king ship

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or in a corporate space to gain a legacy to train people

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underneath her to be a leader? of many how, why does a woman

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have to compete with other woman women, why she set up to do

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that? It's a very common thing in the corporate world. In my

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university world, women are often trying to take out other

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women, but we shouldn't expect any less. That's the patriarchal

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system. We're all looking towards the guy at the top and

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trying to take each other out to get to that guy. So my opinion

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is just like racism, if you understand that racism is

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inherent to the human species, but with education and, and

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communication, and openness, we can we can transcend it. The

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same with sexism, if that's something that's inbred, that's

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arguable, but we certainly live in a patriarchal system. So

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given that it's nicer to give it a cold, hard stare, and say,

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Okay, how am I going to get over that hill? And that's the way I

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tend to do it.

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Yeah, absolutely. That's very, like

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very interesting and ways of looking at that and questions to

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ask of why, why is this happening? And why does it look

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like that? When you were saying like in those positions, and

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they were good placeholders, then were they taken serious

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like was that still that they were taken serious in their

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role?

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They're taken seriously, but they're also not

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given the full range of options that a man will have. And let me

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just give you a biological example. So a man in the

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position of King, what's the king most known to have? How is

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he going to create his legacy, he's got a harem of women, whom

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he will impregnate with many different children, and one of

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those male children will be chosen as king after him. But he

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will then have a variety of princes and princesses to use,

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as his legacy. Now, biologically, was just the way

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mammals work, the female creates the baby inside of her body,

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very taxing, if you have done it, I have done it, it's a hard

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thing. It's not easy. And then all the things that come after

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and the breastfeeding, the caretaking, and the hormone

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changes, it's not an easy thing, to have a an alien take over

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your body. And to deal with that, plus, you can only have

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one a year. And the man can have 365 a year if he is if he is so

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endowed. And so in those terms, just in terms of biology, a man

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is less burdened with caretaking hormonally physically than a

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woman is whether it's having children or not in our world,

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right. So think of it in our world. So imagine that you're a

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professor like me, and and let's imagine that we humans have

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pheromones that we can't even sense or that we have social

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cues that we don't really understand. I with my door open

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and more liable to get undergraduates in my office

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weeping about their problems than my male colleagues who give

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off a strong male vibe and so they don't have to deal with all

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of that caretaking. Whereas I'm caretaking all the time. And I

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have to put up like a certain front to be able to not

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caretaker, I have to often not be in my office so that I don't

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have to take on that role. And it means that even in a

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corporate space, women are leading less creating less

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progeny, if you like, less legacy, and taking care and

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cleaning up messes more, which means that, and we're expected

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to do this, this is part of what we do. So you've got to bust it

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and work twice as hard to be able to have both to be able to

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have your legacy and, and be able to caretake and clean up

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all the crap that's happening in that corporate workspace. And if

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you want to have kids, in addition, you know, just to take

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on that private life aspect, if you do want to have a child, how

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are you going to literally farm that out as you as you work

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through the corporate world to be able to have all of these

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things it's it's very difficult to negotiate what's expected

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and, and that are an unspoken, unspoken and biases that people

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don't even know they have. And and try to find some power in

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your workplace. It's what makes women get that stereotypical

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reputation of the bitch. Because if she doesn't care, take and

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smile and stroke ego, then she is considered on feminine,

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highly problematic. Something that that is upsetting to the

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social core, and we don't talk enough about why and how that

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works. Absolutely, we

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don't know. And then when it came to so when it

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was women ruling the world, how is the finances looked at then

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because I'm writing a book and I'm on this chapter right now

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about not giving up your control. And so often women,

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it's just like, okay, you know, my husband takes care of this,

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my boyfriend takes care of this. And I'm like, we can't do that

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anymore. Gotta stay engaged, stay involved. What did it look

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like back then? Was there power for women in finances? Like, did

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they have that that ability that

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Egyptian women did have this ability. It's funny you say

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this about finances. I had a really horrible car accident in

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1999. And I gave financial control to my partner then that

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turned out horribly, I know divorced from him. But oh my god

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and credit cards in my name I didn't know about and when I

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divorced, it was a credit card debt of hundreds of 1000s of

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dollars, that of course I was then liable for as well. So at

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least I'm in California that the half payment kind of worked for

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me, because he had to at least pay half of it. But anyway, in

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Egypt, women, this is normal women, not just queens or

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princesses. Women could bring money into a marriage, they

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could initiate a divorce, and they could take money out of a

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marriage. So they had their own independence in a way that other

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parts of the ancient world did not like Greece or Rome or

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Mesopotamia or the Levant. Women did have this economic power. It

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didn't equal that of men. However, because they couldn't

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enter professions, and patriarchal societies, until

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recently, did not allow women to enter professions unless they

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gave up their sexuality entirely. Which is why you see

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an abbess in charge of all kinds of finance. Why did they let a

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nun do this? Well, she doesn't have children. She doesn't have

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a legacy. She's not going to complicate things. Okay, well

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let her take over all of the money. You could say Elizabeth,

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the first Queen Elizabeth. The first is this similar example

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and these Egyptian women. Women like Hatshepsut, you know, she

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doesn't have a son as a legacy. She wouldn't be there. If she'd

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had a son, she's ruling with her nephew. But she would have been

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as much a part of ruling Egypt's economy as he would have. And

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until he came of age, she would have ruled at all and made all

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the decisions about what went where, having said that, and

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this is a really interesting point for hardship suit, female

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King of the 18th dynasty before her reign, the nobles of Egypt

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had nice things, you know, tunes, chapels, statues,

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reasonably nice things during her reign. They have the nicest

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things you could possibly imagine. They have beautiful

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tomb chapels and statues and all kinds of things. They were

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spending money. There were more of these nobles than ever

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before. It means that Hatshepsut in many ways had to give to get

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she had to pay people off. How do we pay people off? It's never

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like, I'm gonna give you this, you're gonna give me that. It's

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like, oh, I will make you the great overseer of the robes, you

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know, and you will receive this salary and then you will be

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beholden to me. She makes all of these different positions within

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her kingship. And they're, they're useful to her but that

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means that she's letting tons of cash however you want to

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understand that for the ancient world out of Her treasuries, and

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the Egyptian court, or the king ship is diminished for

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generations thereafter. So I think it's expected that for

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women to gain power, they also have to maybe distribute a

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little bit more of that than would be expected. It's

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something to look at, right? It's something to think about

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when you're in your corporate workspace or you're, you're

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trying to bust in, in some profession here or there. What

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do people expect you to give them? How much do they expect

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you to share? How much do they think they have helped you

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achieve? And that they get a cut of in some way? These these are

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interesting things to see in the ancient record and then to

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connect to the modern day.

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Yeah, well, even in like direct, like financial

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life, like I have a chapter about loving your money too. And

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I said, as women it's like, we think it's greedy or selfish to

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say I love money. I want abundance. And we think we have

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to give it all away. So often women are just, it comes in and

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it's like, okay, I'll give it to my children. I'll give it to

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other people. And there's nothing left. So it's so funny

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to think that that that was like something very ongoing and it's

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so ingrained then maybe that's connected

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to caretaking. Yes, connected with caretaking.

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Right. So we have all of these stereotypes of the woman who

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spends too much on clothing, shoes, handbags, plastic

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surgery. It's interesting how much of that those handbags and

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shoes are considered gifts from the man everyone wants a handbag

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from their man or a diamond ring from their man, then it's okay.

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Because he's marking her as his property in a patriarchal world.

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She buys it for herself, then it's like, Oh, my God, think of

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the good that you could have done with that money. I mean, I

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actually happen to agree with that. And I think these handbags

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are stupid, but that's just me. Right? If you want the handbag,

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then you should be able to buy it for yourself. But it's it's

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part of that caretaking? It really is. It's and it also

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reminds me of Do you know anything about micro loans? I

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think so yes, this is a really interesting anthropological

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rabbit hole for you to go down. Because there are micro loans

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given to women and traditional cultures. And they generally by

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and large, do not give them to men. These are like small loans

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of 50 bucks, where you can buy a cow, take the milk, make it into

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cheese, create a small business, take care of your family, right?

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If they give men those micro loans, they have found on in

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general that the men take it to the bar and create social

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capital, which works very well for them buying drinks for all

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the guys creating gift debt. And they'll be able to you know, but

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it's not going to help the family. It's not money put into

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caretaking. Whereas when they give it to the women, the women

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make very different decisions embedded within the patriarchal

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society as they are unable to have professions. They make

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different decisions. It's why women are also drawn to all of

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these pyramid schemes that we see in the world today. Because

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they're stuck at home, they can't get out. And so they ended

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up selling bad leggings or whatever some of these other

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schemes are.

Kalee Boisvert:

Yeah, okay. Interesting. I love it. These

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are all very interesting points and to see how it played out in

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the history versus now. What What would you think could be

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different now like with what's going on in the world? I mean,

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we're we have a war happening right now with leaders. And I

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say, in my mind, I believe if more women were in the position

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of power, this wouldn't be happening at all. I agree. What

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can we say to that then? And how like, was there differences in

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in violence and actual, you know, war and things like that,

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historically, when women ruled?

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Yeah, women of the ancient world had to do what men

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did. So the first woman I talk about in the book, when women

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will the world is a is the only woman who didn't become a female

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king in the lineup, but she's very good as a king, and her

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name is Mary Kay. And she is a queen of the first dynasty. And

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she rolled on behalf of her young son, who then when he grew

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up, took over and buried her as a king in the in the royal

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cemetery. This woman when her son was thrown in throne

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crowned, she ended up engaging in the same human sacrifice that

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had occurred in her father's reign. And that would occur when

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her son died after so the first dynasty is known for human

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sacrifice. When the king dies, not a couple of people and not

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enemies of state, that people have the court, wives of the

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king, sons of the King brothers of the king, these people would

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be sacrificed. And we don't even know exactly how poisoned maybe

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some sort of blunt force trauma, it's not clear, but hundreds of

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bodies around the body of the king and they were purposefully

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buried all at one time. So you could look at some women and

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say, women ruled differently and make that blanket statement. In

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some ways. I'll agree with you within the context of a

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patriarchy. However, women do what they need to do if they're

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occupying the position of a man is the decision holder that a

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man would have the place that him And what happens, if it is

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expected that blood be spilled, she will do it and marinate when

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she puts her son on the throne or she watches her son be put on

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the throne by all of these priests. And it is expected that

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this human sacrifice take place, we can assume that she made the

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decision about who lived and who died. And it's a very

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interesting thing that she decided that more males would be

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sacrificed. And it's a defensive strategic strategy, right? To

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make sure that not too many males were around of her son's

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age of her son stature to take his power away. So she's the

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best offense for her was a good defense. And she she made the

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decision not to kill as many wives for her for the burial of

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her former husband, but her dead husband, but instead to kill

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more of the males that could potentially compete with her

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son. So her being a woman didn't make her any more Pacific. It

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didn't make her any calmer. She had to do what she had to do. I

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will say, though, that the expectations of a woman and the

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way a woman is embedded in society generally do make a

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woman less violent than a man, I agree with you. I think that if

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there was a woman, President of Russia, well, first of all, I

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don't think it would be as as drastically authoritarian as it

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is. And secondly, I don't think that you would do something so

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boneheaded ly stupid is just decide to invade another place

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and take it like this is mine. It's just such bullying,

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playground behavior, right. And I also like to think as a

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historian looking at things over a very long duration of time, my

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history goes back 5000 years, I like to think that we are now

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existing in a late stage patriarchy, patriarchy is

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failing, and it's failing before our eyes. I'd also like to

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remind your listeners that patriarchy is very young, in the

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long term scheme of things. 10,000 years old, at best, were

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where we are in the United States, maybe four or 500 years

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old, you know, in most very young, this idea of farming and

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hoarding resources and social inequality and, and violent

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invasions and things like that. Not that you didn't have islands

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before. But this this kind of patriarchal hoarding, and seeing

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a forest of value only when it's cut down and made into lumber.

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This is, this is rather new, and it's not something that's

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sustainable anymore. I think we all feel it. It's interesting

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that it's something that unites both right and left, both right

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and left, look at the world around us and go, Oh, my God, we

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are all of us perched on the edge of a cliff, ready to jump

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into, we don't know what Now, some people on the hard right

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will say, Well, we have to go back, we have to go back to what

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we had before. And they'll be like, no, no, we're not, we're

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just not going to go there. We're just gonna go back as if

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that's possible, right? And most of society is like, no, no, no,

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we have almost 8 billion people on the planet, something's

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happening, people are deciding not to get married not to have

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babies. In Los Angeles, where I live, the amount of people

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opting out of society entirely, as homeless junkies is

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extraordinary. Or they're just like, you know, I'm just not

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going to do anything. It's amazing to see and disturbing.

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But you can see society changing very quickly around you. And to

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see all of those things is it's, it just makes one realize that

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we are on the edge of something very big. And what can Egypt

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teach us from this, I mean, Egypt teaches us that human

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beings, if they can just recreate it and do it all again,

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they will, they'll they'll have the downward slide. And then

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they'll build it all back up, again, another downward slide,

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build it all back up again. And they'll do that again and again.

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But we're reaching a point where the earth isn't going to sustain

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that kind of smashing and grabbing that kind of male

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against male violence. And people are seeing it very

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clearly for what it is the social inequalities, the race

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inequalities, that gender inequalities, and people are

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pissed off, and, and opting out in their ways creating their own

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black markets, if you will, their own their own side.

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hustles. But there's a lot of anger, I guess, people have to

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be worth $300 billion, like Jeff Bezos, before we realized that

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we have kings in our myths, too.

Kalee Boisvert:

Yeah. Yeah, that yeah, where the money is, the

Kalee Boisvert:

power is as well now, that's where it resides, which is

Kalee Boisvert:

interesting. So what can we say that like, can we take like, it

Kalee Boisvert:

sounds like, okay, there were women rulers, but oftentimes,

Kalee Boisvert:

they were following by the rules and almost like, the strategy

Kalee Boisvert:

was, you know, to stay there and to appease the men, it was, you

Kalee Boisvert:

know, follow the rules and do it this way. So can we can we learn

Kalee Boisvert:

from the rulers of the past these women or is it you know,

Kalee Boisvert:

can we learn what not to do or what we can do because you're

Kalee Boisvert:

right there is that what did you call it that Hillary Clinton

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where it was, you know, she was evil and a terrible person. And

Kalee Boisvert:

so it's just like, you can't win that and it's, you know, you go

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under the radar and you follow the sort of Male kind of

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expectation or you stand out from the crowd and you get booed

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just as much and, and yeah, call up like that your your mean and

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looked at like as a man or something like that and bossy or

Kalee Boisvert:

whatever they want to call you. So what is it? What can we

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learn? Or what can we do now,

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with Egyptian women can teach us how a patriarchal

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society works. And we can learn that way. Egypt is so useful to

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me as you look at Egypt, and you're like, Oh, my God, look at

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those weird crowns. There's some silly oh my god, look at those

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weird gods, we would never do that. And then the more you

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study them more I study them. The more I write about them, the

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more I realize we're just like them. But Egypt allows us to see

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rule that's over the top, you know, I am a God King. And we

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don't see it in our own society because they're dressed like us.

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They're they use our own ciphers. I'm sure it was the

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same in Egypt, too. And even when you know, these guys have

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private islands and jets and yachts that are like, you can't

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even believe it, right? We still don't really see the power right

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in front of our eyes. And the reason I use Egypt is because as

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my main comparison for studying the world around me today, is

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because it's so obvious the social inequalities, the

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inequities, the the grab, and you know, the power plays. And I

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think we need to see more of that in our world today. Did we

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did the Egyptians, the women teach us anything? I mean, they

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they teach us what it's like to get pushed back down, they teach

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us what back lashes, they teach us that as soon as we think

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we've made it, that we have another year of the woman,

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they're going to push us back down again, they teach us that

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having a female body is probably the biggest liability, and it's

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something we will never change. Because if we want to have

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children, this is something we have to go along with. If you

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cannot transcend your breasts and your ovaries, it's not going

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to happen. You can deny them. But is that what makes you happy

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is that when you're on your deathbed, and you're dying,

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you're gonna be like, Oh, I built a corporation, you're

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gonna be like, I'm my children, which is and I think the man

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would feel the same way. Right? What makes you happy? And on

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your deathbed. That's what I always think about it. Like,

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what do I want on my deathbed? What am I going to be working

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towards? I wrote a lot about this. You mentioned when women

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ruled the world, but I wrote a book recently called the good

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kings, which deals with all of these feminists tropes. Money

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Power, how this works, but through a hard patriarchal lens,

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looking at kingship, and my last chapter is like, well, what the

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hell do we do now? We're stuck in this patriarchal system. It's

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the water in which we swim, we can hardly see anything else.

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How are we supposed to overcome this? How are we supposed to

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find our way forward, and it is happening all around us, we just

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we need to look at those things. We need to look at women out

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earning college degrees, women acting as breadwinners of their

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family, women acting as caretakers. And as breadwinners,

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we need to see how people are opting out of binary gender

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entirely. And we have a whole transgender movement that is we

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also see at the same time the the vociferous and very brutal

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pushback in states like Texas, Oklahoma, Alabama, we could go

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on Georgia, right. And we see the racism very clearly, around

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us as well. So I suppose what what I would say is that, we

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need to realize that just because we're modern, and we

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have televisions and iPads, and mics, you know, like, I'm

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talking to you with the headphones, whatever, space

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spaceships and satellites that were just animals on this

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planet, and we need to get along with this planet. And I think

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the last chapter of my book, I'm like, Okay, how do we smash the

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patriarchy? How does that even work? What is it? And so these

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women teach us what patriarchy is teach us how it keeps you in

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your place. And it's it teaches us that it takes a very long

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time to undo patterns of seeing and ways of being, you know,

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like, I'm 50 years old. And, and, you know, 30 years ago, I

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would just be some old gross lady, and now we see women

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maintaining a sexual hotness into their crone years. And I

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intend to try to do that, as well, right? By showing wrinkles

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and being normal and not plastic surgery in it for a man and

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getting the boob job and all of that, but, but embracing a

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different kind of feminine attraction and trying to not go

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silent and unseen. as I age, there's all kinds of things that

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I could talk about that the patriarchy totally messes with

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our brains about, and how if we see it, clearly, we use a place

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like Egypt to see it. We're like, Oh, crap, it's everywhere.

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It's all around us. And that we're just as ancient as we ever

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were. So how are we going to make something really, really

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new? And really different that works for all this? I think we

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can all agree that society right now looks pretty bad.

Kalee Boisvert:

Yeah, I agree. Absolutely. Well thank you so

Kalee Boisvert:

much. I love this conversation. I could talk this kind of stuff

Kalee Boisvert:

all day long. I know very much like the focus of my book, which

Kalee Boisvert:

is really about women and money and, and trying to exactly

Kalee Boisvert:

understand that and how can we change this? And just yeah in

Kalee Boisvert:

ourselves like how can we really be happy and satisfied then as

Kalee Boisvert:

women in our careers in our financial lives and with family

Kalee Boisvert:

and all that to resolve this pressure? So, love this

Kalee Boisvert:

conversation? If anyone wants to read further, what's the best

Kalee Boisvert:

way for them to I guess, reach out to you or find your books or

Kalee Boisvert:

anything like that?

Unknown:

Yeah, if you Google my name Kara with a que Cooney with

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a C, you'll find my website pretty easily. Okay, and you can

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go from there. I have a podcast called afterlives with Kara

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Cooney, and I make the ancient world relevant. And we look at

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the past and I'm like, Oh, my God, this is still happening

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today and look at this craziness. And we, we look at

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where we came from, to try to understand where we are. And I'm

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on substack. And I'm also on Facebook and Twitter. I find

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myself posting there less and, and trying to control a little

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bit more of my content now that what's his face is by Twitter,

Unknown:

you know where to go, right? Elon Musk, and so, you know, all

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these billionaires, all these kings, just taking more and

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more. It's very annoying. And so I like to go to those platforms

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that are a little smaller, more Mom and Pop, and try to say more

Unknown:

there.

Kalee Boisvert:

Yeah, absolutely. Okay. And I can

Kalee Boisvert:

include some of that in the show notes as well. Oh, yeah. Great.

Kalee Boisvert:

Thank you so much. That was awesome. I love this

Kalee Boisvert:

conversation.

Unknown:

Thank you so much, Kaylee. It was fun.

Kalee Boisvert:

It's good. It's empowering as women talking

Kalee Boisvert:

about this because it's like, Okay, we got work to do and we

Kalee Boisvert:

know it now. And let's be aware, and let's do something about it.

Kalee Boisvert:

Yeah, absolutely. Well, thank you so much. Thank you everyone

Kalee Boisvert:

for listening into this episode, and I will catch you on next

Kalee Boisvert:

week's episode. Good bye for now.

Kalee Boisvert:

I hope you found value in this episode. And because I'm such a

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proponent of taking confident action, I want to pose a

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The Wealth and Wellness Podcast with Kalee Boisvert
To spark healthy and positive conversations around wealth and investment and create a world where nobody is limited by their financial situation
The Wealth and Wellness Podcast with Kalee Boisvert serves to spark healthy and positive conversations around wealth and investment and create a world where nobody is limited by their financial situation. This all starts with education and shifting our relationships with money. But wealth is just one piece in the equation of living our best lives, and we cannot forget about the important link between our self-worth and net worth. Join as we explore both wealth and wellness topics, with a goal of inspiring you to take confident action in all areas of your life!